first off, you're not a "westerner", stop taking bits and pieces of their culture to justify your thinking/reasoning. You still live with your parents which is what losers do in the western world, and yet you're judging chinese women and comparing them to the whites to show that they can learn to do better. If you want to talk about the west, go ahead, but you have to know white moms dont try to wipe shit off her sons asses when they become adults, as opposed to chinese moms who are probly happy to breast feed their children even if the kids are 40 yo. its not the same, so quit saying how the daughter in laws & mother in laws get along better in the west. caring for the offspring is a totally different thing in china as opposed to other parts of the world.
do you ever think about why the problem even exists? why the hell is it way more "peaceful" in the west? you probably dont know, but Chinese female suicidal rate is the highest in the world, & in every other parts of the world, male suicidal rate is always higher than females, in china, sadly its the opposite. so its basically telling you that females are under greater pressure & facing more dilemmas, and this is mostly because women were or still are not independent, they are seen as attachments to men ( to some extent), they do not believe they're capable of anything or at least they believe men can make better achievements, so they are always dependent of men, their fathers, their husbands, their sons. you dont have nearly as many problems in "ancient" china,but things become different as the chinese are exposed to the rest of the world or modern thinking, our generation(born in 70s and 80s), will cause the most problems, because women have srsly started to realise they have better things to do in life other than taking care of their stupid lazy ass bastard husbands or centering themselves around the lives of the husband and his family. But the last generation or our mothers, are still the product of "pure" traditional chinese thinking, especially if you're from rural areas. and of course i would never understand the way your mom wants to take care of you, and the reasons why she wants it that way, because to most people in the world, it looks more like an illness than anything. usually when the kids grow up, NORMAL parents just let go and let them live their own lives, unlike your mom who's an typical example of those who still contribute their energe&time to the kids and worry about shit even if there's really nothing.
you know if you've chosen to live on your own when you turned 18, there wouldnt be as many problem as there is or will be, because for not letting her keep being attached to you for 10 additional years, you showed her that you're a grown man who is capable of taking care of himself, not that sisy whinny little kid sleeping in her arms. so its actually all your fault, for wanting to be your mama's crybaby.
sry for the typos and im not on a comp that has chinese input =/ so bear with me
ps: <3 you guys, dont hate me cuz i use bird language to hurt yor eyes
[本帖最后由 Luigi 于 2007-2-7 02:00 编辑]
